Are you Single?
Churches today seem to have an emphasis on relationships and family. This is ok when you have your Husband sat beside you or your Child cuddled in but to those of you who are single, you sometimes might feel undervalued and long to know “what is next” for your life?
I want to encourage you today that you are exactly where God wants you to be and the relationship that should matter most in your life, is the one with Jesus Christ.
In 2 Thessalonians 2:17 it says that Jesus will “Comfort you and strengthen you in every good thing you do and say” Jesus is everything we could ever need or want in life and when we focus on his desires for us, we receive an overwhelming sense of peace and contentment to go out into this World and show love to others.
The fact that Jesus never married should encourage you! You are free to go and minister to others without having to worry about what time the kids need to be picked up or if your Husband’s shirt is ironed (for example.) You are able to focus purely on yourself and God. You will receive true happiness with your walk with Jesus. Let go of the frustration of not finding Mr “Right” yet. God knows the desires of your heart and if one day you marry, then your husband will be blessed to find a wife devoted to God.
If you do not marry and remain single, then remember there are many Christians who God has called to be single for Him. When we exercise our spiritual gifts, God delights to honour us with a sense of fulfilment. Jesus says ‘But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.’ (Matthew 6:33)
Are you Married?
Being married to my soul mate and best friend is one of the best decisions I made. I originally married young and got divorced due to a lot of violence but I found God in 2006 and he guided me into the right relationship and I have never looked back.
I have realised that marriage is not only a joy but the hardest job (besides being a Mum) that I will ever undertake.
Every relationship has its ups and downs. I don’t mean that Kieren and I argue continuously but with life, bring complicatedness that the Devil tries to get into every situation and it tests the strength of not only your relationship with God but your relationship with your loved ones.
Kieren and I have survived so many trials and tribulations but on the other hand, God has given us many blessings and miracles that that in itself, is a blessing to have shared with my Husband.
Kieren and I got married in 2008 and although he can’t read my mind, he does know how to read my body language. Together Kieren and I have made up funny nicknames for each other, our Daughter and even Pets. We have created an elaborate framework of Kieren-and-Rebecca-isms that demonstrate one way we have become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). That is what God intended for marriage, as part of what binds you together are the unique looks, phrases, and memories you build together.
On the other hand, marriage has constraints. Apostle Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:34 wrote “An unmarried woman is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband”
Sometimes we consume each other so much that we are unable to see past our marriage. Although being faithful and strong is God given, our marriage to God should always come first and he needs to be in the centre our marriage.
What Paul was saying in 1 Corinthians is being single is easier to only be concerned about the Lords desires rather than worrying about the desires of your Husband, which can then take your focus of what God wants for you in this life.
So don’t forget to prioritise what God intended. I am a firm believer to practise what I preach and know all too well that without God, I would never of met Kieren.
Are you Divorced?
Divorce is a taboo subject within the Church – let’s be honest. I was married and divorced by the age of 22 years old. I then found Christ as previously mentioned in 2006 after being raised atheist. It was hard hearing from fellow “Christians” that I would go to hell because I divorced my ex-Husband. I remember crying out to God asking why I should have stayed with a man that beat and raped me but also cheated on me with other people.
When I preach, I always look to the bible as Gods word is truth.
The Bible gives two acceptable reasons for divorce: the first is abandonment of a Christian by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15), and the second is adultery (Matthew 5:32).
Although God allows divorce in these circumstances, He does not command it. It is far better, in the case of infidelity, for reconcile, extending the forgiveness and love that God freely gives us.
However, in abusive situations, the circumstances are far different. While reconciliation with an abusive partner would be ideal, it depends completely on the abuser proving his or her trustworthiness, which could take years—if it happens at all.
Once separation from an abusive relationship has occurred, the abuser has the responsibility to seek help. First and foremost, from God. “For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And the door is opened to everyone who knocks” (Matthew 7:8). No one has more power to heal individuals and relationships than God.
If it is determined that the abuser has truly changed, the relationship may be continued, but with much caution. Both husband and wife must commit themselves to God and then develop a relationship with Him through, Jesus Christ. “And this is the way to have eternal life—to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth” (John 17:3).
Change is possible for people who truly repent and humbly surrender to the Lord (2 Corinthians 3:18)
If you are divorced, do not give up hope. God has a path for all of us and I am living proof that there is life after the heartache of divorce. Whatever God chooses for you, I pray that you will have complete joy in your life and be content on your journey.
Whatever your current situation, know that God is peace and love and through him, we can do know wrong. I will leave you with 2 Corinthians 1:2 “May God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ give you grace and peace. God Offers Comfort to All”