This topic is what I believe keeps the world broken.
Fatherlessness throughout the globe is such an epidemic that the world struggles with its brokenness, daily.
Fatherlessness sees so much pain, heartache, and suffering within so many statistics across the board, that these numbers are quite frankly, killing souls.
If you had a father who was kind and loving, remember to thank God for him, because for most people, this is not the case.
For me, my father was physically there, but on all other levels, he was absent from my life. I grew up craving that approval, to be seen, to receive the attention and acceptance that I so desperately searched for. So much so that my Daddy-issues were apparent in my life until only three years ago. For nearly 35 years, up until that point, I had seen myself as worthless – always desiring the affirmation of my heart. This led to the decisions that affected my life in ways I don’t think I have still quite comprehended.
It was in finding God’s love that enabled me to accept the love of my biological father, yet, to receive the Father’s love took me over a decade to find.
We are too quick to make judgements on others from our place of brokenness, and yet, let’s be honest, this issue of fatherlessness didn’t just start with our generation, or even the one before that – people have been craving the Father’s love, since Cain and Abel.
Friends, I said that it took me over a decade to truly find God’s love, but in doing so, it transformed my relationship with my dad. Is it perfect? Absolutely not, but, I have learnt to love him for who he is, not what I needed him to be.
I now accept my dad’s flaws because we are all beautifully imperfect. I let go of the expectations that my earthly father couldn’t give me and turned to the only Father who could.
Yet, in doing so, there was no more pressure for my dad to perform, to try and become who, I thought, he was meant to be. My ashes became a crown of beauty when I let go of the hurt and pain of fatherlessness, because I realised that I had a heavenly Father, who had been there all along. God’s love had been there all along – I was just looking in the wrong place, and blaming everyone else in the process
“Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” Psalms 27:10