When Conversations go Pear Shaped…

Have you ever lost your cool in an argument, or during a conversation, only to ask the Holy Spirit just moments later, ”what just happened?”

There have been times in my life when I expected everyone to have the same opinion as me, times when I didn’t want to listen to others, and times when I always had to be right – no matter what the cost

But, over time, I have learnt the hard way, yet, God has shaped and moulded me over the last 12 years, into what I am today because I have listened to Him in all seasons

1 Corinthians 13 was written by Paul, to the Church. It was a declaration to show what real love looks like – the kind that God shows us and expects us to work towards.

Why?

Because love keeps no record of wrongs, and therefore, when that person decides to wrong you again, you forgive because God forgives you.

We love the person and not the behaviour.

I have learnt that we are more likely to judge a person by their actions, and yet, for ourselves, we judge from our intentions.

Why is that? Why do we come from two different places, when most of the time, everyone has pure motives – life happens!

The next time a conversation goes pear-shaped, take a ”step back” and breathe. We don’t always have to be right or have the last word.

Sarai thanked us recently, for Kieren and I not arguing…

We unpacked that with her and realised that although we disagree, ”we breathe,” and look at the situation at hand, for what it really is…

tiredness, frustration, fear…

All of the above?

A conversation shouldn’t define your feelings of remembering who that individual is – a person created in the image of God.

Therefore, let me encourage you…

The next time a loved one, friend, or colleague enters into a disagreement with you after a conversation turns sour, remember that their actions were most likely initially pure. Because in doing so, what can be a simple misunderstanding or miscommunication, can stop us destroying a beautiful God-given relationship

And just like with our Daughter, you never know who you influence, when you choose love over everything else

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Rebecca Brand

My hearts desire is for everyone to have an intimate relationship with Christ. To hear the voice of God and to experience His presence. Also, to help disciple others to discover their purpose within the body of Christ - through the power of the Holy Spirit.

My God-given dream is to break down barriers within life and the Church as a whole to strengthen and develop relationships within every denomination and bring unity - so that we will collectively raise up together and fulfil the Great Commission, within this lifetime.

I am living proof that no matter what your past was or whatever your life has become - God will use you to fulfil what He created you to do, when you step out in obedience and faith.

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